What Happens When Children of DIVORCE Grow Up
There are many adults whom hate their fathers. You may not respect his new Wife, you do not speak to your half-siblings- yet your Mother can do no wrong. There are many adults who’s dear Mother alienated them and they do not even know it. She manipulated your young mind because she was in pain. She propelled herself into single mom sainthood, while your absent father became the reason for all of the family’s’ problems. Although unbearable to hear, you very well may be your Mom’s victim.
I just recently spoke to a Blended and Black group member, who’s father contacted him when he turned 18. His Dad hired a private Investigator to find him and his sister. Turns out his mother dragged Dad in court repeatedly, moved without notice and ultimately made it so difficult for his father to foster a healthy relationship with his kids, that he could not afford to constantly fight her in court. Once Father & Son were reunited, the dad showed his son all of the years of proof that he never gave up and that he fought to be in their lives. The son was so enraged with the mother that he moved in with his Father, his Stepmom and his new-siblings. Dad paid for his college education and sewed into his son. Unfortunately, his sister,was younger and too entangled by the Mothers’ lies so has been unable to forge a healthy relationship with her Dad- even as an adult.
Remember, there are two sides to every story. Very few will be able to unlearn misinformation and apply the truth. I hope this compels someone to challenge misconceptions, ask questions and give love a chance.