My Client has watched helplessly as her 10-year old custodial stepdaughter has transformed from loving to tough-to-love in less than a year. Stepdaughter returns from weekend visits with her biological mother acting unruly and disrespectful. The biological mother has just re-entered the child’s life after an ‘illness’ and I suspect this is the root cause of the behavioral issues. To top it off, Client’s husband only ‘allows’ his wife to cook, clean and provide for the child, but she is forbidden from any form of discipline. This family is in trouble and I’m dead-set on whipping everyone back in shape!
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- Discuss obvious change in the relationship
- Reinforce love that YOU have for her
- Remind her that you miss her and that you want her back close
- Leave an open door should she ever want to accept your love
- Find out how she wants to be parented/treated. Don’t ask this directly. Instead, ask her what type of relationship does she want from you. Ask her does she want you to see her as your very own daughter or as a good friend. Remind her that both roles require that she respects you, but as a friend, you will not be able to give her the motherly things that you have done. Also, she needs to understand that you will love her no matter what and that this decision will stand. The goal is to get her to admit that she needs you and wants the relationship to get back on track. Let her know that it will not be easy to get back on track but you love her and you are ready to do the work to help her grow up to be an awesome person.