I get A LOT of inspiration from the Blended & Black Facebook group. Yesterday someone posted this picture on the group’s wall. We see the child surrounded and supported by ALL of her parents. These folk seem to have gotten it right. I know there are many people that have a strong desire for this be their family’s’ reality. What is stopping your clan from achieving this type of peace? Who is the culprit? What role do YOU play in the dysfunction? Most importantly, how does the drama affect your children?
As I was reading through the comments of the thread, I was compelled to share an experience written by Kera J.
My ex husband has remarried. I haven’t had the desire to remarry, however we are blended! My daughter’s stepmom and I get along well. We talk and plan family events and vacations together. She has a son so my daughter has a brother!!!! My daughter is deaf so we all took sign language class together. I mean it can work if you work it and it won’t if you don’t! I guess when there are no hurt or ill feelings toward the ex, it’s much easier to move on and make coparenting easy!!! Some of these mom’s that make coparenting difficult have not let go of the past and though they may appear to have moved on, they still harbor those hurt feelings!
There are so many women in denial. They convince themselves that a new relationship or new marriage means that they aren’t still harboring old feelings from the past. What they do not realize is that they are not allowing themselves to live and enjoy life to the fullest!!!!! I could not hold on to all that junk…. I wish more women would really truly let it go! If not for yourself, for your children. Trust me, they are learning that hate!!!! My daughter is 8, yet she has taught me soooooo much about life!In the summer my ex and I exchange her every Sunday and sometimes I go to his house or his mom’s house… Well one day my boyfriend and I go to pick her up. So I go in solo to pick her up, she was no older than 3 or 4, but she made me give everybody in the house a hug!!! Then I told her my guy was in the car, so she goes and gets him [from the car] and made him come in and give everybody a hug!!!!! We were really pushing this “be nice thing” on her at school because she was refusing to apologize when she did wrong. Now, this 3 year old brought all of us together and we do it everytime we see one another!!!! How could I not practice what I preach!Be nice!!!!!#thatsall #longstory #shortmessage