Why Staying In a Bad Marriage ‘For the Kids” Does More Damage Than Good
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Announcement! I’m a Family Life Coach!
Share this…FacebookPinterestTwitterLinkedin I couldn’t hold this in any longer! After 1000s of required hours, months of rigorous study and a killer exam, I’m so happy to announce that I am a Family Life Coach. I earned my Bachelors in Family and Consumer Sciences (a long time ago) so obtaining this license was a natural progression […]
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Why is Blended and Black necessary?
In the US, the divorce rate for 1st marriages has risen to 50%. The divorce rate for 2nd marriages is 67%. The relationships that produce children leave parent’s with the dilemma of each contributing to their child’s welfare while being in separate households. A #Blended Family is born but unfortunately, most Blended families never truly blend. Also 4 out of 10 children are born to unwed mothers. More and more parents have the task of raising their children in different households. These rising dynamics may make the #Nuclear Family the exception and not the rule. We are Blended and Black!
Why Having Expectations of Your Co-Parent May Leave You Disappointed
Share this…FacebookPinterestTwitterLinkedin Hypothetically speaking, if your co-parent approached you and gave you their most honest reason explaining why they are high-conflict, inconsistent, or not involved -would you listen and accept their response? Would you offer solutions to help ease them back into your child’s life? Would you berate them and spew insults? I recently posed […]
Give Your ANGRY ‘BabyMama’ a Pass. She Just Needs a Nap.
Share this…FacebookPinterestTwitterLinkedin What if I told you that all Babymamas are not evil ? While she may be perceived as bitter, angry or spiteful, she really doesn’t mean to be. Now hear me out! I grew up with a Southern Granny and she had a favorite saying, “pay that no mind”? My Grandmother was trying […]
Studies Show Little Black Girls are Viewed as Less Innocent Than White Peers
Share this…FacebookPinterestTwitterLinkedin I’ve always felt that Black women are the footstools of America. Both figuratively and literally, it was on the backs of the Black woman that this country has prospered. We have bred children like cattle to be ripped from our womb’s and sold off to the highest bidder, our breast milk has sustained […]
Why Men Marry Some Women and Not Others
Share this…FacebookPinterestTwitterLinkedin Why Men Marry Some Women And Not Others was written by John T. Molloy , the author of “Dress for Success”. This book is based on over 3,000 interviews conducted by Molloy and his researchers. They interviewed couples coming out of marriage license bureaus! They basically bum rushed these people for information. I recall how excited, anxious, nervous my Husband and […]
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My own personal blending guru
No one ever starts a family anticipating that it will split. Sometimes it is necessary though. As a divorced Dad, making the transition to a “new normal” was difficult. Naja has been my rock. Naja is not only my Wife, but she’s been a graceful presence while bonding with my kids. She has made herself a constant student on the subject of Blended families. She has an endless supply of empathy, patience and forgiveness. I am blessed to have my very own “Blended family guru!”
Naja has been given a true gift
I have been a part of many Blended family forums, but Naja is by far the most passionate coach I have ever met. She has love and knowledge and the only explanation is that she has been given a true gift.
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Often times when we forgive a person we allow them to hold the same position in our lives that they once had before they hurt us. This leaves room for the wrong type of people to only hurt us again. If you find yourself becoming a constant victim of the same person, realize that you cannot change them, but you can change how you deal with them. Today’s quick tip: People do not OWN a space in your life. They must earn it through time, trust, loyalty and on-going kindness. It’s totally ok to reclaim your space!